The day I realized I had no one but myself to blame for the jerks I kept dating is the day my dating life did a complete 180. The douchebags and jerks became a thing of the past when I searched deep within myself and started to make some much-needed changes. Here’s how I was finally able to find quality guys:
1. I STARTED LISTENING TO THE PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT ME.
During my jerk dating phase, I didn’t pay attention to the advice given to me from anyone around me. I thought I had life all figured out but in reality, I was swimming in a cesspool of toxic dudes who disrespected me and didn’t see our relationship going any further than the bedroom. Once I opened myself up to receive help from the ones who really cared about me, I was able to gain a different perspective about my love life. Nothing beats gaining some wisdom from someone who has your best interests at heart, whether it be a family member or a BFF.
2. I REMEMBERED MY ‘MUST-HAVE’ LIST.
Whenever I meet someone new, I instantly run his personality characteristics through my mental must-have list. This may seem a bit extreme, but trust me, it works. By being mindful of what I’m really looking for in a partner, jackasses and players don’t even make it past the “hello” stage.
3. I DRESSED TO IMPRESS.
They say you should never judge a book by its cover, but I have to disagree. My wardrobe played a huge role in the types of guys I was attracting. Don’t get me wrong, I love to wear a little mini and a pair of sky-high stilettos from time to time, but I realized the caliber of guys who approached me in that state were the lowest of the low. Once I changed my style to include classier and more elegant pieces, the quality guy floodgates magically opened.