While I know it might make me seem like a crappy person and I know cheating isn’t something to be proud of in any situation, I did learn some pretty important things about myself and relationships from being unfaithful to my ex-husband:
1. IT’S NEVER “JUST PHYSICAL.”
Cheating is fueled by emotion, I don’t care what anyone else says. If you care enough about your partner, you won’t cheat. Maybe despite caring about them, you care more about the person you cheated with. Maybe you’re just unhappy in the relationship. No matter what the true cause is, it is tied to your emotions.
2. IT’S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON.
Sometimes cheating isn’t about searching for something outside of your relationship that you aren’t getting from your partner — sometimes it’s purely selfish. For me, it was selfish. I wanted out of my marriage by any means necessary. I didn’t care for the person I cheated with, nor did I consider how it would make my husband feel; I only thought about myself, and the fact that I wanted an excuse for a divorce.
3. SOMETIMES LOVE ISN’T ENOUGH.
I loved my husband, and I still care about him — I wouldn’t have married him if I didn’t. But some loves aren’t meant to be forever. You can’t hold a marriage together with just love. It needs communication, understanding, trust, respect, loyalty, etc. I cheated because love wasn’t enough to keep our relationship strong.